Today has been the worst day-
I was on my way to class and received a phone call from the Guidance Counselor at my daughters high school stating that I needed to come to the school as soon as possible. Needless to say being that I had never received one of these types of calls I was completely freaked out. All I could think about was that my daughter had got caught skipping school or the worst cheating on a test. Never in a million years would I have expected to hear what was going to come out of her mouth.
On November 6th my daughter was date raped from a so called male friend. She has been carrying this around with her for a month and I absolutely had no idea that anything was wrong. I will admit that I had noticed that Shelby had been acting a little odd but she's a teenager- I gathered that as "normal." There is a lot of details of the day that I would rather not blog but my afternoon consisted of being interviewed by school officials and the Richmond Police Department. I have to say that a part of me died today and I don't think I will ever forget the look on my daughters face when she told me. My heart is broken for Shelby and I'm completely humiliated that my co-workers know what is going on. I feel like I have failed Shelby as a parent and I don't know how to make my heart stop hurting. But I guess most of all I'm hurt that Shelby didn't feel that she could come to me when this first happened because she and I have always been able to talk about anything. When I ask her why she didn't come to me when this first happened she just said that she didn't want to burden me with it because she knew that I had been really stressed with class this semester. How sad is that??
Oh well- tomorrow Shelby will be spending the afternoon at the police dept. being interviewed and then on to see a doctor.
For those of you that pray- I need you help.
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I'm praying for Shelby and for you!
ReplyDeleteYou and your daughter are in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteI will keep Shelby and you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteYou and shelby are in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteHere's an update....
ReplyDeleteToday we had to take Shelby to be interviewed by the Richmond Police Dept. and the Detective that was conducting the interview let my husband and I know that this same male individual has another case pending against him right now. We don't know the particulars of this other case but apparently this young man has got himself into a mess.
Please continue to pray for our family; this has been a very rough day.
Please don't blame this on yourself and don't feel as though you failed as a parent. I can tell you love your family VERY much! Keep your head held high! But I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteI pray for Shelby, you, and your family
ReplyDeleteAs I have got to know you this semester Jeannie I can tell that you are a wonderful person and very careing person so please do not blame yourself and like Amelia said you did not fail as a parent. If you need anything or anyone to talk to you can call me anytime 606-438-8673. I will be praying for you and your family. Love you
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to you and your family. I have a daughter as well and can only imagine the nightmare this has been and will probably continue to be for some time to come. I hope that this man will see justice served and that all goes well.
ReplyDeleteYou have no idea how much your comments and support mean to me. I'm truly going to miss each one of you. I love you all and wish you the very best next semester. :)
ReplyDeleteYour family is in my thoughts and prayers!
ReplyDeleteOh no Jeannie. I literally teared up when I read this...very saddening. Please dont feel that you have failed as a mother, this is something that happens every second to a woman and specifically young girls and its usually disregarded by some male shovenist A__hole. I wish all of the luck in the world for you and your daughter and hope that his punishment justifies the crime he has committed. This is sickening to hear and there will be major changes that you and your daughter will endure emotionally and physically, some good and some bad but all in all you both are in my prayers, I am very sorry for this.You are a wonderful person, and I am sure your daughter reflects you very much.
ReplyDeletethat is terribly bad news allways to get when its your own child. I couldnt imagine hearing news from the police that my child is in trouble in sure that day is coming, but I would like to think that it wont ever happen.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh Jeannie I am so sorry! I am super late on catching up with the blogs so I am way late in commenting, but here I am anyways. I had thought there was a class where you seemed completely disconnected. I don't even think you said a word to me all class so I thought something was wrong, but there was never time for me to ask. I hope things are better now. I know it is hard to move on from something like that and it never actually "goes away," but I hope you have seen the light at the end of the tunnel. You truly are a wonderful person and if I had to guess I would say that you are also a wonderful mom. There is nothing you could have done to prevent the situation. I can imagine that Shelby was also feeling a lot of guilt and shame. You should be glad that she told you at all even if it did take her a while. She could have tried carrying that wit her for the rest of her life and that would have been awful. I will be praying for your family. God is listening and truly believe that he has had his hand over your family throughout this entire thing. I love you and if you ever need to talk to someone different than your usual friends (who is not exactly an adult,ha ha) I am always here!
ReplyDeleteJo-
ReplyDeleteYour right, I was definitely disconnected in a class or two- I just could get my head screwed on straight and the day that Leslie tried to express her concern I broke down crying like a little baby. It has all been a strange, exhausting, humiliating, and humbling experience. But most importantly Shelby is going to survive this and hopefully grow as a person. Her Dad and I- I think at this point are smothering her a bit, but I just want her to know how much we love her and know that this will never happen again to her on my watch. She is going to counseling and its not going as well as I would have hoped.
In less than a month Shelby's straight A average is now a low B and she just acts so different. All I want to do is pick her up like a tiny baby and just hold her in my arms and protect her. Sounds silly I know but I hurt for her.
But thank you so much for your encouraging words and please do continue to pray for Shelby and for me as well- I know that there are many rough days ahead for our family.
You truly are an amazing young lady and I feel blessed to have known you even if was only for a very short period of time.
God Bless you and Merry Christmas.
Please feel free to call or email me anytime.
Love you!!!